About
Me - Jaysen’s Legacy
My
name is Kimberly Frayer and I am a Mid Michigan
native, living in the Lansing area my entire
life. I acquired my associate’s degree
in Nursing (‘86) from Lansing Community
College and started as a staff nurse on
a GYN Med-Surg unit. I then transferred
to the Radiation Oncology Department, and
after many years, relocated to another Radiation
Department in town. I obtained a Bachelors
of Science in Health Studies (’02)
and a Certificate in Holistic Health (’04)
from Western Michigan University. It was
during this time I discovered the power
of the Mind~Body connection and how it related
to health and healing. By understanding
the physiology of stress and the chemical
release in the body, the root cause of disease
became very apparent.
I
have been active in promoting and educating
people in the community about Complementary
and Alternative Medicine (CAM) and Integrative
Health Care. In the past have assisted in
development of an Integrative Medicine Committee
at one of the local hospitals and started
an herbal study for prostate cancer patients
in Radiation by development of the concepts
idea, which is now enrolling patients for
data collection. I’m a member of the
following organizations: American Holistic
Nurses Association, Michigan Holistic Nurses
Association and the American Holistic Health
Association.
Several
of my business concepts come directly from
the Nightingale Communities (Yes! that Nightingale!
She was a visionary leader!) empowering
me to offer programs to smaller businesses
at the local (sometimes state) level so
I can act locally to impact globally.
(Please see my links
page) My goal is to provide assistance/
motivation/ support to at least one
person who implements change which makes
a difference; not only in their life, but
impacting the lives of those around them.
“Ripple Effect” needs
to get infectious and spread across our
Nation for the resurrection of health and
healing for wellness of Mind - Body - Spirit
- Heart - Soul.
So
who is Jaysen?
Jaysen
Allen Chandler is my 36 week gestation stillborn
son, who has impacted my life more than
any person living could have. Had I not
lost him, I would not be the person and
nurse I am today as I answered the calling
to serve in nursing after his death.
After
his delivery, the actions and words of well
intended people; my doctor, nursing staff
caring for me, many family and friends,
who were trying to be helpful, weren’t.
They could not know the grief after the
loss of a child that was not know to them;
only myself. I needed to go through grief
in order to get back out, and I needed help
getting there. I decided I would change
the system single handed by becoming a nurse
and telling my story to anyone that would
listen who may be able to help.
Luckily,
I didn’t have to do all the work,
as I was invited to join a new group of
parents who had decided to form a support
group out of lack of community resources
for this special group of people. H.O.P.I.N.G.
(Helping Other Parents In Normal Grieving)
had its first meeting in 1981 and is still
functioning to this day, supporting those
experiencing and grieving miscarriage, stillbirth
and infant death. Parents that experience
a perinatal death are treated much differently
today than some 27 years ago. So, thank
you, to all of the grieving parents
that stepped up and made their feelings
and needs known to hospital nurses, managers
and funeral homes.
All
things happen for a reason… it has
been a long and at times, difficult road
learning the answer to why and then asking
what - then walking my path.
Thanks
for taking the time to learn more about
me.
My
personal place of re-energizing, inspiration
and solitude -
Little Pt. Sauble Lighthouse, Lake Michigan
